Definition of a Gentleman

I love definitions of good manners as it makes the world seem less chaotic. What makes a true gentlemen or lady? ┬áThe best definition isn’t about snobbery or wealth. They behave in a way that makes others feel comfortable.

“A gentleman has his eyes on all those present; he is tender toward the bashful, gentle toward the distant, and merciful toward the absent. He guards against introducing any topics that may irritate or wound; he is seldom wearisome. He makes light of favours that he confers. He never speaks of himself, except when compelled to do so, never defends himself by heated retort, has no liking for slander or gossip, is careful not to impute wrong motives to those who interfere with him, interprets everything for the best, if he can, and, if her cannot, is silent”

The Hidden Power of Kindness, L. Lovasik